everyday Enchantment

Tomorrow She'll be 'Free!"

2011-09-15T22:30:00.000-04:00

Or she'll be three. Just like everyone told me, when you have a little one time flies! And of course I'm finding that truer than ever. We've already reached "3-Day". My adorable, brilliant, Zea is growing more independent daily. Over this last year of her life, there have been a great deal of changes she's taken in stride. But the biggest of all is a major move to California from he east coast. Over the course of the last week we've visited lots of friends who've helped us celebrate our nearly three year old. (Stories of moving, why and the big cross-country road trip to come.)

It has been simply magical to see her free spirit reign. What a privilege I have to witness this precious, princess blossom before my very eyes. Despite my efforts, which seem in vain, I am able to see God work through me to grow and develop this her character for His good. Her sweet, personable demeanor is only one thing I am trying to learn from everyday. When you ask her she'll tell you, "I'm free!" My wish for her is to allow to her spirit free forever!

To year four! And all of the amazing-ness it will bring!

Sister Love!

2011-08-13T21:20:00.003-04:00

I have the privilege of being in Florida this week visiting with family! For the very first time I got to meet this lovely little cousin, Noelani! She's got an amazing big sister who just left to start her first year at The New School for Jazz and Contemporary Music. Here's a little video that she made for her Amazing Big Sister!! (I was having issues posting it on facebook.)

This Man

2011-08-03T17:15:00.004-04:00

12 years, this Man and I have ben together. Most of the photos I have of my husband are just like this. Try as I might I cannot coax this camera shy guy to let me openly capture his face. This is a metaphor of his life.

Today we celebrate 8 years of marriage.

What an adventure it has been! What an honor to witness one person grow, learn, change. And what an experiences growing, learning and changing right along side him. Words can hardly begin to describe the part of the journey we've already covered. All I can say is, I am open to receive the adventure that God has set out before us for the next 8.

Adventures of a Potty Princess!

2011-03-08T12:13:00.006-05:00

A few weeks ago after being inspired by these wonderful ladies, I got up the gumption to potty train Zea. I'd been dragging my feet for WEEKS!! After wresting with myself and talking to the experienced mommies in my life, I finally decided to bite the bullet. The best recommendation I got was to get this book.

I didn't believe, but when we opened the package from Amazon, Zea immediately asked to sit on the potty and she peed!!!!! We were overjoyed, until the next day or so. We put on lovely princess panties and a few accidents ensued but now, 3 weeks later, she's telling us when she needs to go and is only in diapers when we leave the house and when she's sleeping. (I'm not crazy about going on public potties yet.) We're pretty excited and can't wait to be totally done with the diapers!

Here's a pic of that little one singing her potty song and her Princess Potty tiara.

Journey to Opening

2011-02-20T20:21:00.002-05:00

So far my quest for openness has led mostly to me opening up the perspective I have of myself. By nature I'm not very introspective but in the last couple of years it seems if I am going to grow and mature, introspection is a must.

Recently, although I do not write here often, I've been writing various post in my mind. They are all in the queue to be posted, whenever I decided to set aside the time to write. Mostly they've been mind's eye posts. And there seems to be a theme with the selections I've been choosing to "relive".

1) Encounters with close friends. Many of which are much dearer since the encounter.
2) Music. Whether playing, but mostly singing together. I know that music is connector but I didn't realized how much I've used it to connect to others. It was/is such an integral, natural part of our relationships. . . See below!

With legs strewn over one arm of the chair and my head and neck supported by the other, I gaze at the ceiling visualizing the scene our combined voices would make as they raise towards the 20+ foot ceiling.

Seven of us sing praises to our Creator as we are reminded of what He's doing in our lives. I let the ceiling fade away as we begin to sing the bridge,

"You give and take away,"

In the last few months and weeks each of us have experience our own trials and triumphs.

"You give and take away,"

Losing roommates, one year closer to graduation, decoding decaying relationships, new jobs, mourning family members, celebrating commitment. . .

"My heart will chose to say blessed be your name! "

During this bittersweet ceremony bidding maidenhood farewell and welcoming marriage, God is seeing us through our many transformations. In each circumstance, good or bad we are reminded we are not alone. We rejoice and experience sorrow, not only with our Father but with each other.

2011: Word of the Year!

2011-01-25T03:41:00.004-05:00

I've been so busy living life, there's been no time to blog. . . perhaps once a week posting was a bit too ambitious.

Each year one of my favorite bloggers, Ali Edwards, chooses a word as a theme for her year. In past years I've been skeptical. My free flowing personality likes to see how things develop and not be tied to "one" thing. Last year as I let the theme unfold, it just ended up being a lot of me seeming to play catch up and realizing how fleeting time really, truly is. Over my birthday, my time of reflection and annual commitment, I wanted things to be different, more intentional. So, when Ali shared her new word for this year I decided I should pick one too. Just a word, no resolutions, empty promises, or expectations to live up to. This year it did not seem so daunting.

So my word seemed to come to me again and again over the first week of January. I initially did not want to accept it because of fear, my biggest enemy. I wanted something more simple, charming, warm and fuzzy. That is NOT what I'm suppose to be about this year, so I'm learning.

Now, drum roll please, my word, that chose me, for 2011 is OPEN.
Open to love. Open to change. Open to the unexpected. Open to pain, failure and fear.
Open to growth.

I've spent so much of my life in self-protection, not wanting pain and fear to creep in. By trying to keep them out I have also omitted some positive facets of life. Already, as the month comes to a close I have made choices that are breaking the pattern. As 2011 forges ahead, I am Open to becoming.

Happy New Year!!!!

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"Time is passing soooo fast!" was the unofficial mantra of 2010! Although I don't expect that to change, I hope to adopt something more intentional and motivating for this new year.

Already today, as I witnessed a bit of life magic while swinging with my daughter, feelings of hopefulness of all the newness this year will bring, flooded my spirit. Somewhere deep in my core I am certain this year will be different. There were many surprises, twists and turns during 2010 but this year will be different somehow.

My personal journey has been very enlightening. New notions and concepts seem to be revealed through regular conversations, silent times, reading randomness. As I become more open to God teaching me about me I hope to share more regularly in this space to process and come to a fuller understanding in making sense of this life, this story that I'm writing everyday.

Happy New Year to all! And one of my goals is to post weekly, por lo menos!

Love Birds.

2010-11-17T04:00:00.003-05:00

So glad you're here!!

2010-10-13T21:58:00.004-04:00

Oh My Dear iPod,

I thought you might be gone from my life forever. The music and stories you brought to my life were suddenly taken away nearly four months ago. The soundtrack of my life was silence. Mundane tasks became dreary in your absence. And traveling was almost unbearable. I did not know what to do. After moving to a new house I'd finally given up hope of never seeing you again. I even began stalking Craig's List for a replacement and even began dreaming of getting newer model.

Then yesterday, in the midst of the craziness of life it seemed as though you magically reappeared just when I needed you most. Who knew, after having your cushions removed, a move, traveling upside down, I would find you contently waiting in the couch for me. Welcoming you with screams and shouts of joy was just a small show of my gratefulness of your presence.

And here we are together again, at last!

So glad you're here!!

Mind's Eye

2010-10-06T20:53:00.004-04:00

"We write to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospect."
— Anaïs Nin

This quote has inspired me to share slivers of life that stand out and shimmer. Use your mind's eye to create a picture in your imagination. Enjoy this new, sporatic feature!

"Living is Simple!", We sang at the top of our lungs under the starry Mojave sky. Windows down, music blasting, our problems, issues, perspectives on life felt small and inconsequential after airing them to one another. Now, under the spell of the magnificent evening, we were setting aside self-indulgent pity, in order to celebrate joyfully with our sister. In small moments like these the enchantment revealed itself to me through the magic of friendship.

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This is the peace and tranquility that I'm
longing for in my soul right now.

One is Done!!!

2010-09-15T19:07:00.003-04:00

Today is Zea's last day of being a one year old!
My how time has flown.

K2 + k2: Amazon.com Giveaway

2010-09-15T19:06:00.000-04:00

K2 + k2: Amazon.com Giveaway

The AMAZING K's are doing a giveaway on their family blog!
If you're really into reading and LOVE books you have the
opportunity to win a couple books from their summer reading
list or you can choose your own reading adventure by winning
a $20 gift card! Check our their blog: http://kaiandkristi.blogspot.com/!!

Good Luck!!

Another Reminder

2010-08-11T11:52:00.002-04:00

God is speaking to me. I can see it everywhere.

Everyday Enchantment.

2010-07-18T22:57:00.000-04:00

I'm a self proclaimed blog-stalker. I have folders upon folders filled with blogs from my hobbies to friends to random strangers who's blogs I stumbled upon arbitrarily. Recently a few of my fav blog authors have chosen a theme for the year in order to preserve memories or work on that particular area of life. Instead of being proactive in January, I sat back to see if a theme would surface.

As the months seemed to fly by I thought the theme would be something like, "Oh My Goodness, time is passing too fast and I can't hold onto it, there's no way I'll be able to remember anything from 2010!" As I examined that notion more closely, I felt as though I was try too hard to hold on to time. The tighter I held on the less I felt I was retaining. I was missing more. Like trying to hold on to every grain of sand as it slips through your fingers; the more you close your fist around it, the more you loose. So, I sat back and waited some more.

During this more relaxed time of revelation a theme made itself known. Everyday Enchantment. If I allow myself to be open and more aware of the little things happening around me there's magic in these small moments.

Perhaps it's because I have a small child who is embracing this new-to-her world around her, and I'm lucky enough to play witness to that. Or perhaps, I'm finally at a place where I am able to see and savor the specialness of the seemingly unimportant.

No matter, I am here. Now.

LIke Mama

2010-06-23T21:10:00.002-04:00

I know it's been a while since my last wordless wednesday run. Lately I've been feeling a bit uninspired with photography and have felt my photos are lacking something. In the last few days my little girl has become my inspiration. Here she is toddling around expertly in Mama's heels! This image touches my heart deeper than words can ever describe.

Bubble Bliss

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2010-05-11T13:26:00.002-04:00

Happy International Doula Month! I just wanted to share this incredible video, it's not quite doula but definitely birthy! Enjoy.

Finding the Pause Button

2010-04-12T11:47:00.002-04:00

This seems to be my continual dilemma, turning around and finding so much time has past. Though things are getting accomplished and life is being lived and enjoyed, it feels like there's no time to catch your breath before entering into the next event. Savoring seems a tad bid impossible.

Even in this very moment where I am being serenaded by lovely birds and soaking up a bit of sunshine while my darling daughter naps next to me, I can feel the pull of the near future calling my thoughts to things that need to be done before the day's end. This is the struggle I face over and over again. Discovering how to pull myself into the present has always been a stumbling block for me. As awareness arises on what it is exactly I'm to do, I fall in to old habits and patterns that are so familiar and frustrating all at the same time. Here I find myself, learning how to be, one step at a time.

How do you savor the moment?

Fab February.

2010-03-14T23:15:00.007-04:00

Time is flying and like my about me section says, I've been learning how to be/enjoying the present. So here are some highlights from February.

This year Zealand was finally able to enjoy snow.

HD celebrated 30 on the first Sabbath of the month. The best gift he received was a major snow storm which gave him the day off and time with his favorite people. The storm robbed us of power for a little time but we enjoyed. Zea loved watching the snow come down. We had to put a few perishable items out in the snow to keep from spoiling.

A couple weeks later we had a small party with the Abuelos. And Papa had a helper to blow out his candles.

We also had a prelude to all of the visitors March brought. Nina, another mother, came for a conference, one benefit of living in this area. As always it was amazing connecting with her. Zealand took to her like white on rice, of course it didn't hurt that she brought presents ;).

Here's Zea and Nini!

Zea's 17th month has been absolutely fab! I'm so glad to be playing witness to this little girl's life.

Happy March. . .

2010-03-03T10:33:00.004-05:00

I promise there'll be a true update with all of the goings on of February. But for now here's another video Zea doing her thing. We are accompanied by "Lali", short for Lalilo, aka Adriana.

for Jael!

2010-03-02T20:47:00.002-05:00

Message Recieved.

2010-02-03T22:40:00.002-05:00

It's always amazing to me how timely God can be in sending encouragement. This is what I got from Him earlier this week.

Finding Balance.

2010-01-31T23:31:00.006-05:00

Again, time passes and it seems as if there's no tangible record of all that has happened during this first month of January. My thoughts have been like a pool of water in a state of unrest, hitting one side, causing ripples until the wake hits the other. Back and forth, back and forth.

This month has proven to be quite a balancing act between meeting the needs of our home, my relationship with HD, being mom to Zea, easing back into work and squeezing in personal time. Each area seems to have its unique challenges in keeping the peace, propelling it forward, or making sure it gets accomplished. Just when I feel things have been figured out, out of nowhere something comes to upset the routine and turn it all upside down.

For example, this month Zea has started a Parent/Child class in the Waldorf Method (our preferred educational philosophy). Once a week, HD and I, attend the class with Zea to see the method in practice and chat with other parents to get a better understanding of how to implement the theories at home. This has been our darling girl's first regular interaction with other children outside of Sabbath School. After attending three classes, Zea got sick replacing our perfect Thursday harmony with dissonance.

Another example is getting back to work. I love, Love, LOVE my line of work. Although my original plan, prior to coming into motherhood, was to abandon my job and embrace my "new path", I missed supporting mothers and thought I would gently ease into working. Well I eased in as gently as a whale rolling into a swimming pool this month.

In addition to giving prenatal tours of Labor and Delivery I was able to witness three mothers as they experienced the rite of passage of becoming a mother. This is INCREDIBLY exciting for me, when I'm with them, but it can become a logistical nightmare before I get there. I am soooooo blessed that HD's schedule is currently flexible enough to stay most of the time with Zea, and even more so to have my mother and mother-in-love nearby to step in when we are both unable.

So, here's to an even more unpredictable 2nd month of 2010.

Although you are short, February may you be absolutely unforgettable.

Say My Name, Say My Name

2010-01-18T19:04:00.003-05:00

Zealand has been talking for a while now. It's been sooooo fun seeing her understand and process the world around here. As her language developed other parents with older children shared how their hearts would melt when their kids would speak.

When it came to identifying her parents, my little one would call us both Papa (except when she wakes screaming in the middle of the night, then it's Mamamamamamamama!!!!) I realized that over this last week she's been able to distinguish the two of us. Even in pictures of HD and me, where once there was only Papa, there's now Papa and Mama.

When it comes to calling folks we love outside of our home, she's becoming a pro! What's more is that when we drive up to the grandparents' homes while still in the car she'll say, "Yaya?" or "Gampa?" or her own personal version of Abuela. Even before Mama was in pictures, she's been able to point out her beloved Alex and she thinks that every time I'm on the phone it's Neen.

Well with all of that I was Not prepared to hear her speak her own name. When looking at pictures of herself she says, "Baby?" She also refers to herself as, "Me".
But this last weekend my mother asked her, "What's your name?"
Her reply, "See-yan".
You could have knocked me over with a feather. I'm pretty sure that if you'd have opened me up right then my chest would have been full of goo, if not it definitely skipped a beat or two. It was so precious to me to hear her call herself by her name. Just Fan-tabulous!!!!!!

So for all of you parents out there, please share what touched you most as your children begin/began to talk.

Happy New Year.

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Here's a quick vid! Love you all.

Christmas Catch-Up

2010-01-08T23:59:00.004-05:00

The whirlwind of the holidays are over! I can only shout, "Whoopee!!!" Although Christmas, traditionally is my favorite season, it seemed to sneak up on me like other big dates this year. So here at the Coutsoumpos Casa we are blessed to have both of our families in the area, thus resulting in two celebrations! Yay!!

Christmas eve has been traditionally the "big" event for HD's family. We hosted all of the local extended family in our home. It would not be in keeping with our tradition if we, 1) did not start late in the evening, nor 2) had massive amounts of food that we would be eating for the next week to come (double YaY!!, no cooking).

This year, in terms of gift giving we decided to shake things up a bit and exchange names. The distribution process was hilarious ranging from, teasing the receivers into thinking that the giver was someone else, to giving gifts packaged as something not so great only to find the gift inside was something to totally show off and be enjoyed for many years to come! My favorite was giving a gift for every dollar that was specified in our spending limit. . . thanks to Target's dollar spot. A good time was had by all!! Though lil Zea didn't make it to the bitter end she was very exuberant during her time awake.

Christmas day was a laid back affair with my family. We welcomed my little sister back from a semester in Paris along with my cousins from Florida. There was more food along with fun of opening gifts. Zealand, being more aware of what was going on, LOVED ripping the paper.

We got our traditional holiday photo and welcomed the Sabbath with holiday carols and Adventures in Odyssey!!!

Added bonus! Here are some obligatory Christmas dress pics.

The lovely headband was made by my mother.
This is what the little one wanted to do with it. . .

Brief Thanksgiving Re-cap. . .

2009-12-21T08:08:00.005-05:00

. . . Now that Christmas is almost here.

This is where we went. . .

This is what we ate. . .

This is how good it was!

And of course there was pie!!!

Being 29

2009-12-17T19:36:00.003-05:00

With the New Year on the horizon, many are beginning to evaluate the year that is coming to a close. Others are starting to contemplate what they'd like to be and do differently in 2010. Personally, I become much more reflective about such things around my birthday. This event, like the holiday season, seemed to creep up, tap me on the shoulder and shout, "BOO". November 12, came and went without much pomp and circumstance although the day after my wonderful HD planned a small surprise gathering featuring my absolute favorite board game and a new-to-us extension!!!

It wasn't until the very end of my birthday, while lying in bed reviewing the day's events, did I realize that there seemed not to be any future goals in place, nor a record of lessons learned from the year gone by. So, I decided to sit on the dock while the sandman in my dreamboat past me by.

A friend once shared a theory about how we learn with me. She suggested that each new piece of information we learn is like a new string hung in ceiling of our mind. When we learn something new that pertains to our current knowledge base the two strings are tied together. As new strings are added more strings are tied together. It occurred to me that with all of the information I am learning and how interconnected it seemed to be, I must have a knot in my mind. Recently, it seems as though everything I was imputing was connected. From conversations with friends, music being listed to, sermons, books, advice, letters dropped randomly in the mail, a theme seemed to emerge. I decided to take a second look at the knot in my mind, this time from a different direction. What I saw wasn't a knot at all. It was a beautiful intricate web, with the most complex pattern.

This ignited a small fire of encouragement in my spirit. Everything that is happening around me are lessons that I am learning. They are shaping me into something more beautiful than I could ever imagine. God is gently teaching me to see me how He sees me.

The overall lesson of the last year was: Be. Being in This moment is all I can do. I can't change what I did even two minutes ago just as much as I can know what two minutes in the future will bring. All I have is right now. God has me gifted this present moment. I am worthy of it. Am I allowing my purpose to manifest itself right now? This is something that I am striving to live with every breath.

To build on this in the coming year, my goal is to learn to be comfortable in my own skin. There is a list, as long as my elasti-girl arms, of things that I'd like to be different about myself and my life. But all I have is now. Most likely, tomorrow, if I wake, things will not be perfect. That's okay because through this next year I will allow myself to Be.

Cus we've been away for awhile. . .

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it's a vlog!

The BEST job ever!!!

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What's better than combining two things you love? Take a look!!

Frida's Here! from Deidre C. on Vimeo.

See more here.

Fall Family Frolic!!!

2009-10-30T19:51:00.008-04:00

This is for Jamila!!

Hi there folks. Last weekend we celebrated Tio Alex's birthday. Yummy lunch was had at Lebanese Taverna followed by a stroll through the National Arboretum. It was such a beautiful day.

In addition to Alex, HD's brother from Cali, we were also fortunate to be celebrating with my father-in-law, who recently took a job in Chicago. Zealand, although she hadn't seen Alex in awhile nor her Abuelo, took to them like white on rice. When first got through the door of the house she couldn't stop hugging her Abuelito. She just knew the two of them were here just for her.

She LOVES holding hands. Now that she's getting older it's becoming easier to soother her with hand holding. Here she is with her entourage.

Those Abuelitos can't get enough of her.

Here's our official new Coutsoumpos family photo.

The fall foliage was something to behold!!!

Running away!

Getting love from the birthday Uncle!

I can't get enough of this amazing weather. I wish it would last forever.

family photo attempt

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Hopefully we'll get something more official and/or professional next month :)

The Happy Homemakers Have a Ball

2009-10-15T11:28:00.007-04:00

So what does one do with all those apples? Well the Happy Homemakers were on it.

If you told me five years ago that I would take pleasure in spending my Saturday night over steaming apples and getting sticky fingers, I would have thought you were out of your mind. But that's exactly what we did. And we were excited about it. There was even brainstorming about how this could become a cottage industry.

After washing and quartering about half the apples we set them to steam for a bit. Next, we put the through this glorious machine, a Victorio strainer and turned the crank. Almost like magic we had perfectly delicious hot applesauce!

This magnificent contraption separates the cores and skin of the apples leaving behind the yummiest substances yet to be purchased in a store.

Needless to say, I am very covetous and would LOVE one for my upcoming birthday. Not only does it make perfect applesauce but also, tomato sauce, peach sauce and baby food, among other things.

We also added other yummy things to our applesauce such as raspberries and peaches to make delicious blends.

When we were all done, clean up was a breeze with the help of Happy Homemaker Husband, Jason, who graciously replaced our broken dishwasher after living without one for two years.

We ended up with a ton of applesauce that I thought may just last forever.

Now, a mere four weeks later we've already downed more bags that I can count, it's just THAT good.

Apple Princesses!!!!

2009-10-02T20:19:00.008-04:00

We had the pleasure of having the Musgrave family come for a visit a couple weeks back. We had a blast!! On the Thursday of their visit, while Sydney and her dad went on a date, the mommies took the babies to pick apples.

We also picked raspberries (berry field pictured above.)

Well, what do you get when a one year old and almost one year old go picking? Lot's of baby bites in apples. (Baby Bites, a possible name for our future business.)

They were expert apple tasters. And we enede up with more than a few apples that had little nibbles taken out of them. But these ladies were generous in their apple eating.

They enjoyed riding together, although it was short lived.

It ended when Zealand stood up and tipped the wheel barrow over and the two of them fell out. We ended up picking about 115 lbs of apples, I was just a little over enthusiastic about picking apples. Stay tuned to read about how the Happy Homemakers Had a Ball!

Crazy for Cupcakes!

2009-09-23T22:01:00.006-04:00

Let me introduce you to the self-proclaimed "Cupcake Maven". Sometime in the last few weeks I've become a bit obsessed with cupcakes. It was almost like I woke up craving them. Perhaps it was finally finding a vegan cupcake recipe and making them for Zea's birthday. Whatever the case may be, I, the Cupcake Maven, am on a hunt for the best cupcakes in the Maryland/DC area. There are a few bakeries that exclusively sell cupcakes and that is where by search has begun. I will share my results of my quest with you, here on the blog!!

So here's my first review.

Georgetown Cupcake

My expert team of cupcake tasters!

Two sisters opened the shop in February 2008 and have made a name for themselves on the east coast. In the year and a half that it's been opened they have been featured in People magazine, the Washingtonian, the Today Show and even Martha Stewart!

Lovely selection of cupcakes

On Zealand's birthday, Adriana/Lalilo, my partner in crime, suggested that we start our cupcake adventure. What a better way to celebrate? So we chose this particular shop mostly because its location is one that we like very much. Between the three of us we purchased four cupcakes.
Red Velvet, Chocolate Hazelnut, Lemon Berry and Chocolate Banana.

Soooooo yummy!!!! The icing was light and flavorful, the cupcakes fluffy and deliciously flavored. The one that I thought I would hate the most was the chocolate banana. Usually products with a banana blend are overpowered by banana flavoring. Not this time. The banana was perfectly balanced in the icing and in the cupcake. The red velvet cupcake tasted fresh and was complemented perfectly with cream cheese icing. Chocolate Hazelnut nearly like a Ferrero Rocher in mini cake form. The lemon berry wasn't too heavy and beautifully decorated although the bright pink icing did stain Zealand's shirt.

The overall rating is, drum roll please, 5 out of 5 cherries on top!!!

drinking in the scent (red velvet)

Zea test. . .

. . . totally passed!!

Chocolate hazelnut (someone's trying to steal it. . . )

Chocolate Banana

Lemon Berry

PARTY TIME!!!!

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This party was for us! People who love her and us came together to celebrate the anniversary of her entrance to this planet. It was very simple, just food and mingling and gifts, of course. Zealand was oblivious that everyone had gathered for her. She was content to walk around the house with minimal restriction. All in all, we had a good time. Enjoy the pics. Click the flickr button for more!

Hanging out with guest

Opening gifts.

Yummy cupcakes

Chillin' with Gramps

Look at me!

One Year Ago Today.

2009-09-16T22:04:00.004-04:00

This was last year.

This is today!

My Dearest Zealand,
I am sooooo glad I had you. Oh, how this first year together has been revealing. There were times, before I met you face to face, that I was uncertain what motherhood would bring and the challenge. You, my darling, have been the best teacher a mother could ask for. These last 12 months have been some of the most challenging of my life and I wouldn't trade them for anything. Knowing you has made my life ever so richer. I feel like I'm seeing things around me for the first time. Watching you come into your personality is hilarious. I love your outgoing spirit and eagerness to help others find the joy you have in life.

You are one lucky girl. There is an abundance of love that surrounds you and it will be present in joy and through trials. I know that so much life lies in front of us and I can't wait to see what God has in store for you.

Love,
Mamma

Something to do. . .

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. . . when you don't know what else to do with an almost one year old when it's not quite bed time.

Birthday Party Sneak Peek.

2009-09-14T00:34:00.002-04:00

Here's a peek at one of today's festivities.

Ten Years Together.

2009-09-13T02:19:00.005-04:00

Yesterday morning as I realized as I was preparing for church, after quickly glancing at my cell phone, it was HD and me's ten year anniversary of dating. I quickly sent off a text,

Me: "Happy TEN years!"

I soon received a response.

HD: "Congratulations we still love each other!"

Even now, I smile to myself, loving his ever-so-blunt self that I was too naive to see as a smidge indelicate, when I was 18 and accepted to be his girl. Little did I know, would be for life. Alright, Mila, I kind of had an inclining that it would be for life.

So, here we are ten years later with all we could ever want in this life, each other.
HD, there's no other way to explain how I feel about you now, than to share the words of your favorite Jon Foreman:

Head over here and take me
Head over heels and aching
When I told you I was yours,
I was yours

In this life you're the one place I call home
In this life you're the feeling I belong
In this life you're the flower and the thorn
You're everything that's fair in love and war

I'm coming down like a gun shot
In all these battles that I've fought
You're the mark I'm aiming for
I was yours

Head over heels

In this life I'm stubborn to the core
In this life I've been burning after more
We both know what these open arms are for
You're everything that's fair

In this life you're my only one

In this life you're the one place I call home
In this life you're the feeling I belong
In this life you're the flower and the thorn
You're everything that's fair in love and war

Agust in review. . . as promised.

2009-08-30T21:39:00.009-04:00

Lately when folks ask what's been going on around these parts, it seems hard to recall. As it all comes back, it's hard for me to believe that the month is OVER!!!!!!!! So where to start? Well, why not at the very beginning.

August 3rd.
HD and I celebrated SIX years. I know it's not long but, it just has passes so fast. We've had more than our share of ups and downs in this relationship but we are doing our best to realize that we aren't the One holding us together. In an effort of doing that, we had our second annual spiritual retreat. It was a fantastic time focusing solely on God and recommitting our relationship to Him.

. . . all the other stuff.
The month seemed to pass in a blur and I'm not quite sure if the following highlights occurred in August or July but here we go.

Zealand is walking! She was very cautious about the entire process. There was a lot of walking with support and then gingerly lowering herself, like a sumo wrestler when she was feeling unsteady. Suddenly she wasn't holding on. A few steps at first by herself, then more and more!!! Now she's everywhere. No, we haven't baby proofed the house. But we've created a Zealand-contained area in half of the living room where she can "run" and play.

Words are coming. She is signing a bit to let us know the basics such as, food, milk, more, potty, etc. Don't be surprised of you receive a call from Zealand.

Give this little lady a cell phone and she knows just what to do with it. She's already called a few folks by accident and then will answer, "HI". Even when no one is there she'll answer then, hand it over as if to say, "It's for you."

She'll even "text".

Or she may be trying to get in touch with you to share the news about her first birthday party!! I can't believe a year has nearly passes already. HD and I are finally feeling like we are getting our footing on this parenting thing. Although, curve balls are coming at us left and right we are playing on the same team.

So of course there are big party plans. Were having a butterfly themed party. This is my consolation for not including my favorite insect in her name, Mariposa, as I'd originally intended. Though we'll be celebrating Zealand's arrival it will be more of a celebration of, "Wow we happened to keep another living being alive for more than a couple months." This is the reason we don't have plants or animals. . .

All in all, things are going well. On a business note, I recently completed an introduction workshop for Birthing From Within. A childbirth education alternative. This is the first step in becoming a Mentor, not a teacher, with this particular birthing ideology. I am VERY excited and in order to share more about the actual workshop, it would need about 50 post to share all of the revelations personal, professional and spiritual that were gleaned from this experience.

I hope that September will bring more frequent posts. This month boast of big things, not only sweet Z's first birthday, but a visit from my dear friend, Heather! There'll be plenty more fruit picking and hopefully even some canning. Stay tuned.

Preview of things to come. . .

2009-08-21T10:53:00.007-04:00

This week we celebrated 11 months with Zealand! Because her Auntie Jeanene has left the country for the semester, we had a mini "practice" party before her leaving. I think we need to work on blowing. . She was utterly amazed and confused when her lighted cake was set before her.

There were no qualms what to do after the candle was out!

A longer post to come, updating life in the last few weeks.

Home Sweet Home

2009-08-12T23:08:00.002-04:00

Discovered this in my neighbor's yard today.

Reading Specialist's Granddaughter. . .

2009-07-29T10:29:00.003-04:00

For Vimie

Sunny Toes!

2009-07-22T09:58:00.003-04:00

Why I do what I do. . .

2009-07-05T14:25:00.004-04:00

Recently it seems as though a slew of my friends and acquaintances have been/are pregnant. Wanting to be a good friend and not bombard them with all my birthing knowledge unless asked, I've kept relatively quiet. Here, I can share some information without making it too personal. My passion is to share options during pregnancy and childbirth. Too many times I hear, "If I had only known before." Well, if you don't know your options, YOU DON'T HAVE ANY!!!

Birth Matters Virginia recently sponsored a informational movie contest about, you guessed it, birth. This video won third place. It blends information on childbirth in America and personal encouragement and women strive to have their best birth!

If you're happy and you know it. . .

2009-07-01T23:51:00.003-04:00

I've been only been shooting the little one lately.

Come for a Visit!

2009-06-17T19:51:00.003-04:00

It's great living near the nation's capital! Don't you want to see it for yourself?

Wordy Wednesday. . .

2009-06-10T13:09:00.026-04:00

Here's the mega post, as promised. . . If you hang in there multi-media surprises await.

Zealand @ 7-8 months!
Time just seems to be flying. The last couple of months this little person has obtained so many new skills, such as clapping, jumping, dance/swaying, waving, kissing, crawling, pulling herself up and walking with support.

At seven months we introduced more solids to Zea's diet, which in turn, introduced us to a more solid and stinky poop. Neither Mama or Papi wanted to change those diapers. HD had the brilliant idea to have her pass her bowls like we do, on the potty. She gives clear signals when it's time to go potty so we've been putting her on and she knows now that's where business gets taken care of.

There were no official photo sessions from seven months but, here's one that was taken on a trip to the National Arboretum in DC. At that time she had barely three little teeth but was biting EVERYTHING.

Shortly after her eighth month birthday, Zealand rode on an airplane for the first time!

There have been quite a few flights I've shared with crying babies and my heart always goes out to the parents. Needless to say, I was a little bit leery about our experience. Our plane was scheduled to leave around her bed time so, we had her bathed and supped before we boarded. Upon take off I breastfed her and sang like we usually do before going to sleep and she drifted off and slept the entire flight! Boy, was I proud. As we disembarked a few folks commented that the didn't even know there was an infant on the flight! She did well on the return too!

We went to Vero Beach, FL, same as last summer. This time instead of having a baby inside, she was out and there were so many things to introduce to her. . .

Why a daughter needs a dad!
#077: so mom can take fun dad/daughter photos.

#083: to teach her how to be cool!

#094: to show her how the waves can tickle her toes.

#101: to be held tight in his strong arms when she's afraid!

#115: to hide her face in his shoulder when she doesn't want see what frightens her.

#121: to give her rides up high and hang on to ear handles.

#138: to have someone to enjoy each day with the breeze in her face and a song in her heart!

Though the initial beach intro didn't go so well after going everyday for nine days she grew to like it.

Her favorite part? The sand. Yum!

One last highlight of the beach trip: While out jogging HD spotted this little fellow making his way out to sea. You may remember him from wordless Wednesday a couple weeks back. Well here's a close up of the baby logger head turtle. We're not sure if he was last to go or just an early bird but it was so cool to see him.

Saratoga Surprise
Our vacation time was completed with our annual surprise destination. Each year the one of us plans a surprise destination for vacation this year it was HD's turn. He was craving the mountains. After much research decided to take us to the Adirondacks. We visited Lake George and stayed in Saratoga Springs, New York. It was soooo beautiful. Our first day there we hung out at Lake George and toured the surrounding area. I'm sad to report that I forgot my camera to capture the amazing vistas. The following days we did a driving tour and visited the city of Saratoga Springs. Very quaint little place and it made it to the list of places HD and I want to live when we grow old. I really only took pics of the baby, but in a local park HD shot this one of Zea and me!

Odds and Ends
As of today, Zealand has 5-6 teeth. (that last one just broke the surface this morning)

One of her favorite hang outs is the laundry basket.

And next week she'll be nine months!! I can hardly believe that time has past so incredibly fast.

On different note some of you may know that I was working with a group of doulas at Holy Cross Hospital (a local hospital here). Due to budgetary restraints they've cut the program but I'm soooooooo proud to announce that we are going into business for ourselves!!!! These wonderful ladies and I

are now part of a private doula group named: By Your Side Birth Services !!!!
I am still taking minimal private clients but being in this group gives me flexibility to be with Zea and still do what i absolutely love!! I'm working on expanding my career so stay tuned for future updates!

Well I hope you enjoyed this "little" catch up post and as promised here's a little video of Zea with some clips from about a month ago.

Three faces of Zea. . .

2009-06-06T21:45:00.003-04:00

This little girl has about one million plus expressions here are three as a pre-cursor to a mega update post about 7 and 8 months and vacation. Enjoy.

Little guy, Looong Journey.

2009-05-27T10:12:00.001-04:00

You name it!!

2009-05-13T14:19:00.005-04:00

This pics says so much. Share your title for this picture in the comments!!
Check out more photos from this day!

Mother's Day Memories.

2009-05-10T23:49:00.008-04:00

So this my official first Mother's Day Weekend was celebrated with the mommas closest to us. Saturday, Zea and I hung out with Abuelita while Pastors Papi and Abuelito were engaged in church related activities. Us ladies made our escape to the National Arboretum. It's a beautiful park in the middle of the city. The weather was ideal for an afternoon outdoors. Simply Perfect!

Sunday, we hung out my family at home. We had a terrific spread with all sorts of treats then took some photos in the yard to commemorate the day. Each event ended by sharing a movie.

As the day past I thought a lot about how others in my life have mothered me whether they know it or not. I want to wish each of my friends, with kids or not, Happy Mother's Day. Know that your inner mother is ever present and making a difference in my life. (d.p.m, j.a., j.s., e.m., a.m., m.m., h.l., h.m., s.f., e.p., d.b., k.m., j.m., k.s., l.s., m.z., m.w., c.s., m.j., h.w., v.m., m.e.) THANK YOU! I love you all dearly, more than words can express.

self portrait, aquarium.

2009-05-06T17:26:00.002-04:00

Baby Bump Classic

2009-04-29T12:18:00.001-04:00

I HEART Spring

2009-04-22T11:38:00.004-04:00

btw, Happy Earth Day!!!

wordless wednesday 4.15.09

2009-04-15T12:12:00.001-04:00

Happy Tax Day !!!

Spring Holidays!!

2009-04-13T20:13:00.007-04:00

Spring, already being my favorite, brings two holidays that weren't highly celebrated in my family as a child. Now that Zea is in my life, we are deciding how to introduce her to life as she will know it.

We were fortunate enough to celebrate both Easter and Passover this year. Easter was done traditionally with a special presentation of Christ's death and resurrection from the perspective of a centurion. And we all know that Easter brings beautiful dresses. Zealand was privy to this tradition. Our very own Lalita gifted her a magnificent dress. (and we all know how Mommy loves pretty dresses) Church was followed by family dinner/birthday celebration with Yaya and Gramps.

Then came Passover. HD and I are true admirers of Jewish culture. It is so rich with ritual and meaning. Messianic Jews have tied the traditions of Passover to Jesus, our Passover lamb. Each portion of the program teaches children of the first Passover and Jesus' sacrifice. Were were blessed to share the Seder and Feast with friends of ours. Enjoy the holiday pics!

Traditional Seder Plate (vegan style)

Zealand participating in ritual hand washing

Wordless Wednesday. 4.8.09

2009-04-08T14:42:00.003-04:00

I shot this last week during our trip to the Cherry Blossoms.
It seems as though April has chosen a theme for me. Enjoy.

Spring Awakening.

2009-04-03T13:09:00.007-04:00

My all time favorite season is Spring! Followed closely by autumn. Seeing new life break forth after months of dreary winter (especially one with minimal sparkly snow), inspires me. Since our return to Maryland I've begun incorporating a new tradition in our family, visiting the Cherry Blossoms that were gifted to the U.S. by the Japanese. They were planted around the tidal basin that is also home to the Jefferson Memorial.

Last year during my visit I could only touch my belly and imagine what it would be like to introduce BC to the beautiful blossoms. This year we were able to witnessed it as it unfolded. And now we share it with you.

Here are some other pics from our excursion.

Sign in the Wine (okay so it's Welches. .. )

2009-04-01T09:16:00.001-04:00

Zea is 6 months!!!

2009-03-19T15:08:00.003-04:00

DSC_0169
Originally uploaded by deidreelyse

I can't believe we've made it to 6 months. She's growing like a weed and we're seeing her personality more and more. She's silly and loves to laugh, likes to play by herself and is very interested in clapping. She's beginning to stand on her own and looks very proud of herself when she accomplishes it. We took our first looooong road trip to MI and she did well and had a blast interacting with her buddy Addy and all of the other babes there. Last but not least: she's begun to eat banana. The verdict is out if she likes it or not but she's eating it none the less.

Body stats: 17lbs 11oz and 27 3/4 inches long.

Enjoy the photos for this month and as always click on the flickr button for more pics.

Chilling with Camille

Playing with Naomi

Meeting Yonah

Hanging out with "big sister" Addy

Trying banana for the first time.

These last three are from our 6 month photo shoot!

Wordless wEdneSday

2009-03-18T10:22:00.002-04:00

Juxtaposition

A Busy Street

Wordless Wednesday

2009-03-12T09:33:00.003-04:00

I had the privilege of photographing beautiful mama Sarah! Here's a peek.

Zea @ 5 Months

2009-03-02T22:25:00.015-05:00

I think I'm going to give up on the idea of doing a five month photo shoot of Zea. There were about a million things happening in the very short month of February and we did not manage to squeeze in our monthly shoot. Although, there were about a million and one photos taken of the girl as her fifth month was celebrated.

Here are a the to ten highlights of the fifth month:

10. We sort of successfully took a family self-portrait.

9. Zea thinks she's big enough to sit in a rocker that belonged to her autie as a baby

8.Tooth number two is in and working extremely well. (I found out the hard way:(

7.Her Valentine's was spent with her one and only man, Papi by going to church and letting mommy get a few extra Zs.

6.Zea and Lalio have been spending Q.T. together.

5.She has the most mischievous smile.

4.I just LOVE all the cute dresses.

3.We've discovered that she can make a toy out of anything.

2.And she's constantly sticking her tongue out to make sure her teeth haven't disappeared.

1.The mama and the papa can't get enough time with her.

Wordless Wednesday: Play Things

2009-02-25T09:47:00.002-05:00

Wordless Wednesday: 2 pics!

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Remnants of Valentines

Shadow Play

Daddy's Little Helper

2009-02-13T12:50:00.003-05:00

Slings are our answer to getting things done around the house. Though our house isn't large, the way it's laid out makes it inconvenient to leave babe in one room, unless she's napping, while doing something in another. Especially, now that she's becoming more mobile. That being said, Zea has offered her services in "helping" whenever she can. I happened upon her doing the dishes with HD this week.

Wordless Wednesday. . .

2009-02-12T01:24:00.006-05:00

. . . on Thursday.

As usual time ran out, though I had all intentions of posting on Wednesday this week, it did not come to pass. So, this is a new feature that I'm introducing where I'll post a pic from our random everyday life in order to sharpen my photo-taking skills and have glimpses of our daily life for posterity. . . please feel free to add your own words via leaving a comment.

This week's pic is: Bleeding Heart.

Love is in the Air!

2009-02-05T10:23:00.004-05:00

The other night I asked HD to watch a fussy Zea while I fixed supper. All day the babe was overly sensitive and it was beginning to get to me. As I was preparing I found the above in the new bag of potatoes that cheered my heart. I decided to run upstairs to take a pic to share. There I found a sight that I'd only dreamed of. Zea and her dad were dancing away to a new album we got this week. She was LOVING it. I tried to join the party, but was promptly notified that it was a daddy/daughter dance. SOOOOOOOO ADORABLE!! I'm sure it's the first of many.

Vote for Zea!!

2009-01-30T22:44:00.004-05:00

I entered Zea in a cutest baby contest. Click HeRE to vote for her!

4 Months!

2009-01-23T14:52:00.003-05:00

We've made it to 4 months and it's such a joy and delight to be this little girl's mamma!

Last week we visited the doctors. She's now 16lbs and 26 inches long! She seems massive compared to when we first met her. Her personality is being reveled daily. She's a laid back easy going little girl. She can entertain herself with her wipes for at least 15 minutes at a time. She also like when we try to eat her hands and feet. And as stated in an earlier post, she LOVES music!

Since the move to the new space, she's become accustom to being put down at night and even for her naps which have become a regular staple in her schedule.

Here are a few of her nicknames:
✿ Zea
✿ Zealy
✿ Zeals
✿ Kiwi
✿ Scallywag
✿ Drool Monster
✿ Snotty Girl
✿ La Princesa
✿ One tooth wonder (though the second tooth is beginning to make an appearance)
✿ Schnooka

. . . oh, and enjoy the pics. For more, click on the flickr link on the right.

Playing Catch UP!

2009-01-14T10:18:00.005-05:00

Here's how we spent our holidays! Were were really blessed this year to have both our families want to come to our place this year. This was our first year for HD and I to have a Christmas tree!!! I was ecstatic!!! I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE Christmas!

Did I happen to mention that I LOVE Christmas? This year we were lucky enough to have three celebratory events. First we hosted HD's family on Christmas eve as is their tradition. There was yummy food and plenty of love and laughter, after a late start. Zea knew there was lots of excitement going on and insisted on being a part. Here she is with her Aunt, being intrigued by her Abuelita Santa.

On Christmas day my family came for the day. Auntie Jeanene got to dress little Zea from top to bottom.
(Yes that's a bow in her hair)

And the Day after Christmas we got to celebrate with our chosen family, the Monsalves and TiMi (Tia Mila). We went down to the White House lawn to see their holiday display with a GIGANTIC menorah and Christmas tree and 50+ smaller trees representing each state and territory. Here's a pic of us with Lolo and Lalita.

It was a wonderful holiday season and I now understand why it only comes once a year! We had a good new year too, with a visit from friends we hadn't seen a while I'll post more pics soon!

We've Graduated!

2009-01-14T10:00:00.003-05:00

A couple morning's ago if you'd told me it was going to the last time rolling over and seeing my daughter's smiling face in the sunlight without my feet hitting the floor, I may not have believed you. Well two days later I'm here to testify! HD and I decided weeks ago that we should move Zea from our bedside, in her co-sleeper to across the room into our sitting room. She's either a Baby Genius or a super sensitive sleeper. (Of course I choose the former.) With her next to us, she was waking when we sneezed or coughed in the night. And when we'd start in for our night's sleep, she'd think that's be the perfect time for waking and having a quick little pillow talk before we ALL could go to sleep.

Sunday past, after worrying if Zea would every like music, she cried and cried at the top of her lungs for forty-five minutes. She was inconsolable. She wanted nothing to eat, not burping her, not even her beloved walking with dad would calm her nerves. It was only after HD started singing, did she immediately quiet and finally go to sleep. This was her last night beside us.

Now that she's moved: HD has become the consummate nighttime parenter, getting the baby when she needs to feed (only 3 times), Zea is no longer roused by our sleeping sounds, I no longer have a backache from keeping one hand in the co-sleeper, to calm the baby, and falling asleep. And the number one thing about baby's big move. . . I can have my bedside table back! It's become a mess of books and papers since my table was removed.

HD and I were pretty excited her first night in the new space. We gave a few high-fives and did a little happy dance! I never anticipated these small triumphs would bring such joy! We're becoming real parents day by day and ONLY with God's grace will our little one thrive!

All I want for Christmas. . .

2008-12-18T11:49:00.005-05:00

. . . is my TWO front teeth. Zea already has one. Yup!! She got it the just in time to chow down on the Thanksgiving Tofurkey flavored breast milk. And she's been chewing on her hand as if there's another not so far behind. Just this week that she's been patient enough with me to photograph the one and only for proof! Two and a half months. . . a tooth! Who would have thunk it?

@ 3 months

2008-12-16T13:36:00.004-05:00

Just this week a friend told me, "Consider it a good day when you've managed to keep Zea alive for another day." I can't believe we've succeeded it doing just that for 90! BUT, she's not just alive, she's thriving.

At 3 months Zea loves:

o Tummy tickles
o The ABC song (English and Spanish)
o Morning talks with Mom
o Flying like an airplane
o Her own reflection
o Cuddling with Papi
o Riding in the car

At 3 months Zea dislikes:

o Waiting for her food
o Being in big crowds
o Getting into her car seat

It's been simply amazing watching her morph from a petite newborn into a sturdy baby with dimples at every joint! Everyday brings new insight into who she's becoming. How privileged I am to bear witness. Enjoy the 3 month pics!

Oh Baby! We're Thankful!

2008-12-16T12:45:00.004-05:00

This year we were sure a LOT to be thankful for. At the top of our list, of course, was Zea, followed by a close second, my AMAZING Husband Dearest, who's been so very supportive since the baby's birth.

This season of Thanksgiving brought new people into Zea's life. She met Tio Alex, HD's brother, who's been excited about her since we announced the pregnancy. And Tia Eri and Lalilo, her very thoughtful and creative aunts from California and Chicago. There was also Desta and Tiffany, Florida cousins that were itching to see Baby Zea.

Meeting cousin Desta

Meeting cousin Tiffany

Meeting Tio Alex

Meeting Tia Eri

Meeting Lalilo

We celebrated on the day with my folks at an intimate dinner with all the fixings and finished the day with a trip to the airport to pick up Alex. All day Friday instead of getting up early and standing in lines, we took it slow and spent time with my in-laws, allowing for Alex and Zea to get to know each other better.

Sabbath afternoon friends and family gathered together for Zea's dedication and to consecrate HD and me to raising Zea in God's path. Subsequently, they also committed themselves to support us and Zea in this endeavor. It was the perfect ceremony for us. We could not have asked for a more meaningful service. It was a fantastic ending to a celebratory weekend.

2 Months, Too late. . .

2008-12-14T19:31:00.003-05:00

Zea's two month mark as come and gone and in two days we'll be nearing three. Well here's the update. At her appointment, Baby Zea weighed in at 13 lbs and 25 inches. She's been growing like a weed. Someone even asked if she'd been eating pure cream. ;) Month 2 highlights include: Celebrating Yaya's and Mom's birthdays. Meeting new cousins. And getting her first piano lesson. The best thing, is receiving intentional smiles and recognizing Mom and Papi! What a beautiful, mild mannered babe we've been gifted. God knew exactly what He was doing when He gave her to us. Click to see some new pics! Check in soon for the three month update.

70% accuracy.

2008-12-08T00:07:00.005-05:00

According to one of our childbirth ed teachers, 70% of mothers who don't find out the gender during the pregnancy, intuitively know the sex of the baby. Recall with me,this post. Surprisingly enough, I fell into the majority. But it wasn't until last week that I saw the face that I dreamt. Today I share it with you!

We're still waiting on the curls to come in.

Falling in Love with our little Pumpkin!

2008-11-04T10:30:00.005-05:00

A couple of weeks back a few of our friends hosted a belated birthday party for Zealand! Knowing Fall is my favorite season of all, they used an autumn theme. There were pumpkins, popcorn and beautiful rich colors. Best of all there was a banner to welcome guests that said: "Fall in love with our little Pumpkin." My buddy Heather was in charge of decorating and she did an absolutely FABULOUS job!

It was a mixture of great food and fun! Everyone was a good sport. The highlight was an obstacle-course race to qualify three guests for future babysitting. The participants were great sports as they jumped rope, read stories, colored, and combed hair amongst other activities. Below are some pics from the event.

Zea in her party dress!

Guests decorated onesies for Zea

One of Zea's buddies

A couple of GREAT sports who participated in the obstacle course

The party left our baby pooped!

Zea Smiles!!!!

2008-11-02T21:44:00.004-05:00

I promise, this girl has been smiling since she left the womb. First in her sleep, now in the past few weeks while interacting with HD or me!! I have been desperately trying to encapsulate this phenomenon in digital form. Finally this morning, I got it! Now I share it with you!

We smile not only because she does, come next April we hope to be getting a little more money with the return!

Month Full of Firsts!!!!

2008-10-17T13:36:00.019-04:00

Just yesterday, Zealand turned one month! My! How time has flown by! Her one month check-up was yesterday. She is now 10lbs 6oz and 23 1/2 inches long! This month has brought a lot of firsts for Zea. Here are the top ten for this month!

10. First Bath! (she loved it)

9. First Classical Recital (she made not a peep)

8. First Wedding (slept through the whole thing)

There's Aunt Denise and Uncle David! Congrats!

7. Heard Dad's first sermon at the new church (and looked cute too)

6. First iChat (with the California tias)

5. First Shopping trip (accompanied by the shopping queen, Tiffani)

4. First Meeting with Abuelito (@ 2 weeks old)

3. First Sabbath afternoon to the "Flower Gardens" aka Brookside Gardens!

2. First road trip (going down was tough, but she enjoyed the ride back)

1. First meeting with her birthday buddy (Grandma Ruthie was sooo excited)

It's impossible for me NOT to take pictures like crazy and we are consistently adding pics here to the blog but even more to flickr. If you click on the badge on the right of this blog, you'll see more Zea!

Here are some bonus shots from our one month photo shoot.

Whoopee New Jeans!!!

2008-10-01T19:45:00.005-04:00

So, they really aren't new jeans but, it sure feels like it. Today HD and I planned a trip to the grocery store. For the last 14 days (since the baby arrived) I've only felt comfortable leaving the house in maternity clothing. Since my favorite preggo jeans were in the wash, I decided to reach into the stack of pre-pregnancy clothing.

I'm sure you've all heard stories where a new mom couldn't get into her clothes for months after birth and had to get a whole new set of clothes for that interim period. I was so sure I would share the same story.

On a whim, combined with no other option to turn to, I reached for the jeans and stepped into them. Already thinking that they wouldn't close, I was ecstatic to discover that they were just as good to me as before!!! It truly felt like I had a new pair of jeans!

Cancel the Moyel, it's a Goyel!

2008-09-24T23:27:00.014-04:00

Today, the baby formally known as BC is 8 days old. It's nearly unbelievable how time seems to be flying. Before the birth, HD and I were at odds on the "circumcision decision." One thing that we had chosen to do--if we decided to circumcise--was host a bris and hire a mohel (pronounced moyil) to perform the minor surgery. Obviously we did not have to come to any conclusions and that discussion may be revisited if and when there is a BC2. In Jewish culture the bris is held on the eighth day. If a daughter is born into the family, it's a baby naming ceremony. Due to scheduling and availability, our naming ceremony was on the fifth day.

Today HD and I were able to spend some exclusive time with Zea enjoying our expanding family and acknowledging the changes she is bringing to our relationship. There is no way to describe how much joy she brings us. From her miscellaneous funny faces to her random cues and involuntary smiles, we are doing our best to enjoy this--our first time babymoon.

Here's our first family pic!!!

*the blog title is from a onesie we saw at Daisy Baby.

Name that Baby!!!

2008-09-22T22:11:00.005-04:00

After much deliberation HD and I finally decided on a name for BC. This summer a portion of our vacation was dedicated to going through a fantastic baby naming book that provided a number of activities to get the creative juices flowing. Once the names were chosen it was decided that they should be revisited as B-day drew nearer. Once BC was here we spent a few days getting to know the little lady before we gave her an official title. Even then we waited until the last possible moment to come to a final decision.

On the fifth day after her birth, HD and I hosted a Naming Ceremony. We sung hymns, shared scriptures and told the baby about how Jesus loves her and what He did for her. Then the big reveal!!!!

Her name is: ZEALAND ADRIANA COUTSOUMPOS

Once the ceremony was officially over, HD participated in one last tradition. Lifting the baby to meet the sun as a symbol of offering her up to God. (Yes, very Lion King-esque). Here's our history making pic below.

Proud Papas!!!!

2008-09-20T20:25:00.007-04:00

Unfortunately, Abuelito C was out of town at the time of BC's birth. He does check in daily to see how his "Princesita" is doing! The "mamarazzi" will be on high patrol in a week when he is scheduled to return.

In the meantime, Grandad Medley is enjoying every second with his newest addition to the clan. Today at church he proudly announced her arrival! Here they are below spending some quality time together.

HD is over the moon, head over heels, sooooo in love with his little girl. Here they are together just after the birth.

And here she is, just for fun, on our Sabbath walk around the block!

D + O = BC

2008-09-17T14:09:00.012-04:00

Yesterday we had the pleasure of meeting BC for the very first time--live and in person. BC made an entrance at 11:05pm on September 16, 2008. After a long and rigorous labor we were thrilled to introduce ourselves to our new daughter!!!

The yet-to-be-named BC (Baby Coutsoumpos) weighs 7lbs 11oz and is 21in long. Highlights of the birth include: 5 doulas present, Deidre catching the baby, successful birth at home. More details to come...

Enjoy the following pictures of Lady BC.

Our expanded family

BC and Yaya

BC and Abuelita

Full Moon Myth??

2008-09-16T04:25:00.006-04:00

As a child, my mother always told me that on a full moon the maternity ward was full and someone was having a baby. As I grew older, I came to realize that there's ALWAYS someone giving birth.

When I took up doula work I was intrigued by the notion that there is a rise in spontaneous labors around the full moon cycle. I actually began seeing that come to pass when I started to attend births regularly. According to this article, there is a connection between the full moon and labor starting.

This evening, as I was running last minute errands, I'm nearly sure I saw the man in the moon winking at me. . .

Ask me now if I think labor linked to the full moon is a myth?

I THINK NOT!!!!!

It's beginning to look more and more like September 16, 2008 is a great day to have a baby!!!! Stay tuned in to hear of more developments!!!!

Coming to Term. . .

2008-09-09T21:31:00.003-04:00

After talking with HD, and our midwife appointment this morning we've concluded that this weekend coming up will be the approximate forty week mark! (I knew I was feeling too good to be having a baby any day.)

This means that I could still have potentially two weeks left in the pregnancy. . . whoopee??? Technically I'm still not ready though, my preparation and nesting projects are nearly done. We'll see what BC wants to do. (This weekend coming up there's a full moon!)

Of course all of this confusion could have been avoided if I paid attention to the date of my last period. (kudos to you who do!) And if we'd gotten an early ultrasound. Although I did none of those things, I am very, Very, VERY fortunate to have a care provider who is NOT quick to induce, or actually induce at all, and who is very flexible and trusting in a woman's body to do it's job in its own time! (This will not be the post where we'll get into the importance of a care provider who has your best interest at heart. . .)

So, to all of you who are waiting for BC, we've got to come to terms that we just have to wait a little bit longer!

Nesting.

2008-09-09T01:10:00.011-04:00

According to our childbirth education class one of the sign before onset of labor is, nesting. Not only does it occur during just before labor but, also during the middle of pregnancy.

In my case nesting has not demonstrated itself in a nursery, (we don't have one) but in creating beautiful spaces in my home for me to labor. Early on while doing labor practice I realized it is hard for me to relax in an ugly environment. That at the time was our bedroom. We were able to tackle that during our vacation earlier this summer.

My quest grew into creating, "The Perfect Birth Space". The ideas began rolling in after viewing an EXCELLENT movie on home birth called, "Home Delivery." In it one of the mom's created a birth tent. I wanted to do something similar. Hence the birth of our space. Last Friday, Jamila came over and took charge of completing the "Birth Space". This was under the hopeful guise that once it's done, so would the baking of BC. . . Here are some pics of how it turned out!

Head over Here for a description of some of the items in the space.

And now the living room. It's still pretty bare but it is neat and together. . . which is more than it was about three weeks ago.

The Best is Yet to Come

2008-09-09T00:38:00.006-04:00

Sometimes we don't know why certain situations turn out the way they do. This morning I was experiencing one of those. At the onset of 2008, my two closest friends decided that this was the year of big changes and it would be manifested in a cross country move.

From the moment they told me, I began to process it in the way that you do when something drastic is changing in your life. The natural process of grieving ensued:

* 1. Denial and Isolation. (Sike you're not really going anywhere, are you?)

* 2. Anger. (You think you're leaving, well, in my mind you're already gone!)

* 3. Bargaining. (There's no way you're going without me!)

* 4. Depression. (Woe is me, I will have NO friends left when you leave.:o(

* 5. Acceptance. (I know God is calling you to move, there are new lessons to learn and dream jobs to be had!! Good thing my bro-in-law lives there cus HD, BC and me can come and visit and see you and other folks we love!!!!!)

These two particular friends are very eager to be present when BC comes into the world but as of this morning that is no longer possible. The Acceptance phase has fully launched as I spent time with them both as they completed last minute preparations for their cross-county drive. They stalled as long as possible seeing if labor would start giving them an excuse to stay an extra day...

Now begins the long wait until Christmas when they will return and BC will be approximately 3 months old (if he/she comes sooner than later). Praise God for iChat and Pix Messages and good 'ole fashion snail mail so though we are miles apart we still remain close in spirit.

Watch out Cali, here they come!!!

That's Jael (who's also moving with them), Erica, and Jamila!!!

Ladies, as you are on this journey, remember the words of

Mr. John Avery Whitaker, "The best is yet to come!"

Full Term.

2008-09-03T19:24:00.004-04:00

It's here. I never thought the near end would be in sight. But this is the end of the pregnancy, technically. Now, we wait. There are a LOT of little projects to do so I'm not waiting in vain, twiddling thumbs, pacing, or even worrying. BC needs more time to bake, that's fine with me. I'm excited cus we DID make it to September, despite predictions from the grandparents.

This evening there was spectacular light coming from the setting sun into the living room. There was no way to pass up the chance to take what could be the last of, "The Belly".

NO labor on Labor Day. . .

2008-09-02T21:36:00.006-04:00

Nope, there's no baby yet, nor any signs of labor for that matter. This last weekend HD and I were recipients of a Labor of Love. A good friend of ours and her family offered to help out in anyway they could. This being an opportunity we could not pass up we asked them to help us paint our living room. We've also officially named our former back-jungle the "Edwin Martinez Memorial Patio".

For those who are not near by, the short story on our home is everything in it needs to be updated, whether it's painting, replacing of appliances or total demolition and rebuilding. . . It's coming slowly and every new improvement is a sigh of relief.

So, our blessed friends came on Sunday and Monday to help us paint our front room, hallway and half-bath. It was a HUGE job, that in my tunneled vision would never get completed. Thanks to God, it took only one day to do the big job and the next day to put on the finishing touches. The back patio, which was SOOOOOOOOO over grown it could have swallowed several small animals and a person with out anyone noticing, was re-discovered. We now need to to treat the concrete tiles so the weeds will stay away. It would also be nice to find some end of the season clearance patio furniture to complement the space.

In the meantime, nesting is kicking in big time. I've cleaned out the kitchen and once the living room is back together I'm dying to shampoo the carpets. Instead of creating a nursery, which I could care less about, I'm on a kick of creating my ideal birth space. Off of our bedroom there is a sitting room that I've designated for laboring and decorating with positive encouraging items for the labor and birth. Included are items created during both Mother Blessings and photos that help me remember why I've chosen what I've chosen (natural childbirth) and pics of me letting go and going with the flow. Besides those projects we wait for BC to decided when to make his/her appearance.

When folks ask when the baby's due the answer is: "When the baby arrives!"

There's no way this baby will come and you don't know. I promise!!!!!!!

P.S. I'll post pics of everything soon.

We're still haning "IN" there. . .

2008-08-27T12:04:00.004-04:00

I've gotten lots of calls wanting to know status of baby. BC is still hanging "in" there. This morning the midwife visited for our forty week appointment. Everything is normal. BC has not dropped nor engaged. There's lots of movement and the heart rate is good. According to external parties BC's arrival must be between Sept. 4th and Sept. 8th. If BC is anything like Dad, BC will come when BC is ready. . .

Meanwhile this is what I look like while BC is hanging in. . .

p.s. this shirt makes me look bigger than i feel ;o}

Doubly Blessed.

2008-08-25T23:36:00.004-04:00

I'm sure I've mentioned a time or two how much I LOVE LOVE LOVE my job!!!! Doulas are the coolest!!! Not only am I in the ideal line of work, I have the most AMAZING colleagues. There is only one local hospital in the area that has doulas on staff. Lucky me that I get to work with all of those amazing ladies personally.

These lovely ladies planned a Mother Blessing for me and BC this weekend. It was wonderful! The nature of our job doesn't allow us to socialize very much, so when we do get together we it's tons of fun!!! Beautiful poems and blessings were shared, along with the opportunity to cast my belly at my most pregnant state. I was sent home with lovely goods for my birth space and even meals to freeze for after the baby is born!!

Kudos Ladies!!! I don't know how I would be able to face this time in my life with out your love and support!!

Next up

2008-08-18T00:51:00.008-04:00

As many of you know I'm a doula, i.e. a childbirth coach. The typical nine to five kind is not my kind of job. I am blessed to attend births and witness the miracle of not only a new person coming into this world but the transformation that takes place in men and women becoming parents.

Thanks to my buddy Erica, I was able to share in a class of hers over a year ago, one of the students in that class decided that she wanted me to be her doula at that time though she was not with child. When she did find out that she was pregnant it was about the same time I did too but I didn't want to turn away her patronage. That is how she came to be my very last client before my own birth.

Over the weekend, she had a beautiful birth which resulted in a beautiful baby girl. It was perfect timing though the mom was more than ready to deliver I was grateful that everything went as it did. Observing her strength and courage to surrender to the power of birth encouraged me as I prepare to do the same any day now. . . I'm next up!

That was my last birth. On the side I occasionally take portraits of preggos, solitary folk and couples. My latest was an engagement session of my very good friend Denise and her fiance David. They are next up to get married. Things in both of our lives are crazy so this was the first time I've truly been able to see them interact. Thanks you two for your patience with the computer glitches. Here are a few pics from our time together.

With these two gigs behind me I now sit and wait for BC arriaval. . . NOT. There are sooooooooooooooooooooooooo many things to do before this baby comes. . . we'll see if BC will wait for just a couple more weeks. ;o)

Opposites Attract. . . .

2008-08-18T00:36:00.005-04:00

. . . then they attack!

HD and I recently celebrated our fifth anniversary, our last one with out BC. This last summer HD and I have had challenges in our relationship that served as a reminder for

#1) Though we are soooooooooooo different God intended us to be together.

and

#2) The only thing that will keep us together is our reliance on God.

This afternoon while continuing to clear clutter in prepreation for BC we rediscovered our wedding vows that we wrote ourselves. Though it'd been a while since we'd even seen them it was great to see despite our struggles and disagreements we are still striving to fulfill them to the letter. Please keep our relationship in your prayers as our family expands. :o)

Just Around the River Bend. . .

2008-07-30T22:44:00.003-04:00

We've just entered our ninth month! Can't believe we've only got four weeks left, and according to expert moms, Delina and Elizabeth, who's baby's came early, that BC could make his/her appearance at any time from here on out. I'm still holding on the the dream that BC will arrive around week 41 or 42.

For now this is what we look like, BC and Me!!!

Mother Blessed

2008-07-30T15:41:00.009-04:00

Early in my pregnancy I had trouble embracing the change from wedded maiden to mother. This summer has been used mourning the loss of who I am and welcoming who I will become and how BC will fit into our family.

As it is for most first time moms as the baby grows and uterus's space lesses, connections are made that this little tenant is actually her very own to love and care for. . . FOREVER! Needless to say it's happening to me. BC and I are having a great time getting to know one another as I embark upon the motherhood journey. I have been fortunate enough to have positive supporters around me. They've helped me accept this coming roll.

Last weekend, my mother and mentor hosted a Mother Blessing in my honor. A Mother Blessing is a rite of passage designed to prepare a woman for motherhood. During this spiritual gathering we will engage in a number of activities to encourage and support Deidre’s “birth” as a mother.

About 12 women who are close to me attended in support of embracing motherhood. There were a slue of activities including a trust walk, creation of birth beads and a laying on of hands to blessing the birthing process. I also enjoyed a time of pampering where there was someone rubbing or massaging each of my appendages, even BC in the belly bump! One feature I especially appreciated was friends who did not live near were still invited to participate. They sent their blessings and well wishes for birth and beyond.

I just wanted to give another THANK YOU to everyone who make my Mother Blessing a very VERY special event during this walk of life. I am truly a Blessed Mamma!

Below are some of my treasures from the Mother Blessing, hand made birth beads and a belly cast from 34 weeks signed with Power words for labor.